Ep 57: How Elisa Sets Boundaries with Her Mom in front of her Teenagers

“And then I told myself, you know, if you don't speak up, this is gonna turn into resentment and you'll love your mother and your mother loves you, loves you, and you have to speak up for both of you…And that's what made me, spoke up, in front of her, in front of my daughter… Speaking up is because it comes from a place of love. It comes from a place of saying your truth, not only for my mom, but for myself.” - Elisa

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Episode Summary

Our inner child re-parenting series (eps 50 to 58) continues. In this episode, you will hear the conversation that I had with Elisa about boundary setting, intergenerational family healing, inner child re-parenting, and parenting teenagers. At the end, you’ll have one reflection question and invitation to integrate this discussion into your own boundary setting practices.

Full episode transcript here.

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Episode Outline

Breaking generational cycles in many cultures includes mending the relationships with the previous generations.
Stories from Elisa about how she chose herself over people pleasing her mother.
What helped Elisa move through the discomfort of saying no to her mom and stay aligned with her values.
How Elisa explained to her teenagers about her decision to set boundaries.
How boundary setting can be misused as a tool to police and punish our caregivers.
One invitation to include and involve your caregivers using collaboration on the shared values.

Resources Mentioned:

Wang Fengyi

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The In-Out-N-Through parenting program

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