Ep 38: How Sylvia Shifts from Triggered to Centered, Most of the Time

“Before the workshop when I was having those (anti-oppressive) conversations, I felt half hearted having this conversation with my kids. Yeah. But now I feel like more confident as parent having this conversation, more confident, like I'm a leader in the family for my children to lead and guide them.”

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Episode Summary

In this episode, Sylvia shares her decolonized parenting practices as she’s raising her bi-cultural and bilingual 8- and 10-year-old mixed race children. You’ll hear how Sylvia re-parents her inner child to move through her parenting triggers. I’ll offer reflective questions for you throughout the episode as invitations to reflect on and enrich your own parenting practices.

Full episode transcript here.

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Episode Outline

  • How she broke up with mainstream parenting norms to listen to her gut feelings. 

  • How she handled her parenting triggers in the moment they came up and her 10-year-old’s super sweet and compassionate response to Sylvia.

  • How Sylvia used an aha moment of inner child re-parenting to heal her own wounds and talk to her children about her parenting values.

  • How she incorporated body-based practices in her daily parenting to soothe her triggers and take care of her nervous system.

  • How she unsubscribed from capitalism’s idea of success and modeled that to her children.

  • How she used the smallest shifts and changes to sustain her decolonized parenting practice. 

  • We heal our inner child and internalized oppression wounds to stay in the struggle for liberation.

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