Episode 25: Bridging the Gap between Intention & Action for Your 2023 Parenting Goals

“The certainty doesn’t have to come from getting a standing ovation from the oppressors by perfectly performing your parenting by their standards. The certainty can come from the moment-to-moment decision when you adapt and align your parenting decision with your social justice values.”

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Episode Summary

Let’s begin 2023 by bridging the gap between intention and action for your 2023 parenting goals. Explore some unseen forces that can get between your best intentions and your goals by talking about the Immunity to Change model which will help us understand what keeps us from getting to our goals. Then, do a neuroscience-based self-reflection quiz to get even clearer about what exactly is stopping us from making necessary changes.

Full episode transcript here.

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Episode Outline

Change is hard because we assume we would lose something when we reach our goals.
What the Immunity to Change model is.
Exploring our fear of losing something that keep us protected but stuck in place.
An example of growing up in a “tough” family and now you want to break that family cycle but you’re stuck.
Testing out your assumptions. Is your fear of that loss true?
Getting real about “courage & vulnerability” when you’re in a marginalized body.
Honoring your fear first before trying to get rid of it right away.
Exploring which aspect of human connections you’re afraid of losing with the SCARF model.
Is it fear of losing Status, Certainty, Autonomy, Relatedness, or Fairness (SCARF) that keeps you from making changes to meet your goal?
Facing your fear with compassion and accountability. Writing your own parenting playbook and living your values in a community that supports you.